Comments on: Sex Ed. http://www.saalonmuyo.com/2008/12/29/sex-ed/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=sex-ed Flashlights and Explosions Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:09:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: arisonn http://www.saalonmuyo.com/2008/12/29/sex-ed/comment-page-1/#comment-1378 arisonn Mon, 01 Jun 2009 13:53:43 +0000 http://www.saalonmuyo.com/?p=398#comment-1378 And it occurs to me, now that I’ve posted the pervious, that also there is something undeniably alluring about the forbidden. So abstinence ed is actually making teenage sex all the hotter. And it occurs to me, now that I’ve posted the pervious, that also there is something undeniably alluring about the forbidden. So abstinence ed is actually making teenage sex all the hotter.

]]> By: arisonn http://www.saalonmuyo.com/2008/12/29/sex-ed/comment-page-1/#comment-1377 arisonn Mon, 01 Jun 2009 13:48:07 +0000 http://www.saalonmuyo.com/?p=398#comment-1377 This is an issue I think about a lot, so even though this is an old post I thought I would add my two cents. I find it interesting that these studies typically don’t comment about WHY abstinence programs reduce the use of birth control. I also find it interesting that it took me as long as it did to figure it out. I used to think, rather vaguely, that it must have something to do with the lack of knowledge about birth control. But I recently realized this is probably not accurate. The problem is guilt and denial. Perhaps this is obvious to everyone else, but it was a revelation to me. If sex outside of marriage is bad, bad, bad and you are going-to-hell if you do it, then you don’t plan to do it. So you don’t buy birth control because that would be planning to do it when you weren’t crazed with hormones. But then “in the face of, say, a suddenly topless girlfriend” “it just happens.” Somehow that is okay. Whereas planning ahead and buying condoms is not okay with god apparently. It is just bizarre. But perhaps not as bizarre as wearing the silver ring AND also regularly hooking up with full intent. Denial and lack of insight into oneself and one’s behavior is so unfathomable to me. I couldn’t agree with you more on the point that abstinence programs are ridiculous considering our physiology. My next logical problem is to figure out why the heck Christianity is so concerned with sex in the first place. My current vague idea is that it has to do with the historical need to identify paternity in a world without DNA testing or reliable birth control. I actually did attend an abstinence program (sans ring) and this is the funny part – the reason I agreed to go to the program at a neighboring church was to meet boys. Anyway, the hypocrisy and lack of logic (with religion in general) eventually got to be too much. Even though I initially had doubts by 12, I wasn’t able to fully quit church and deal with the ostracization of being an atheist until much later in life than 9th grade. And by the way, sorry I can’t keep my replies to an acceptable one or two lines. If I have something to say, it seems, I have something to say. This is an issue I think about a lot, so even though this is an old post I thought I would add my two cents. I find it interesting that these studies typically don’t comment about WHY abstinence programs reduce the use of birth control. I also find it interesting that it took me as long as it did to figure it out. I used to think, rather vaguely, that it must have something to do with the lack of knowledge about birth control. But I recently realized this is probably not accurate. The problem is guilt and denial. Perhaps this is obvious to everyone else, but it was a revelation to me.

If sex outside of marriage is bad, bad, bad and you are going-to-hell if you do it, then you don’t plan to do it. So you don’t buy birth control because that would be planning to do it when you weren’t crazed with hormones. But then “in the face of, say, a suddenly topless girlfriend” “it just happens.” Somehow that is okay. Whereas planning ahead and buying condoms is not okay with god apparently.

It is just bizarre. But perhaps not as bizarre as wearing the silver ring AND also regularly hooking up with full intent. Denial and lack of insight into oneself and one’s behavior is so unfathomable to me. I couldn’t agree with you more on the point that abstinence programs are ridiculous considering our physiology. My next logical problem is to figure out why the heck Christianity is so concerned with sex in the first place. My current vague idea is that it has to do with the historical need to identify paternity in a world without DNA testing or reliable birth control.

I actually did attend an abstinence program (sans ring) and this is the funny part – the reason I agreed to go to the program at a neighboring church was to meet boys. Anyway, the hypocrisy and lack of logic (with religion in general) eventually got to be too much. Even though I initially had doubts by 12, I wasn’t able to fully quit church and deal with the ostracization of being an atheist until much later in life than 9th grade.

And by the way, sorry I can’t keep my replies to an acceptable one or two lines. If I have something to say, it seems, I have something to say.

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